How long can we pretend to be something we're not?
Turns out Mr Darcy with the great manners, was in fact a heavy smoker (hid that well for first few dates) and also seems to be an entirely different kind of guy when intoxicated (perhaps an anti-Mark Darcy almost). Date two superb, looking forward to date three, when un-announced and overly-intoxicated, turns up on doorstep, crashed a night out with mates, only to act the fool, disappear at every new bar, continue to drink heavily before disappearing at the final bar...
Third date syndrome? or just third date douche bag?
I'm quite convinced that we all on some level put our best foot forward in the initial dates. No one wants to see the 'real you' on date 1, but as you become more comfortable, it's only natural to think less and be more yourself. I'm not advocating that you pretend to be someone your not, but telling someone you only have one quick smoke when you drink, when its a blatant lie, is never going to work out.
But how soon do you drop the guard? And how much of a guard do we expect the other half to have?
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Modern Mannered Men? Urban Legend....
DO MANNERS MAKETH THE MAN? I know it's 2008, and with each generation comes new rules, etiquette's and displays of affection, but is there still a place for manners in this modern, fast-paced world?
When was the last time you saw someone open or close a car door for someone else? Seat a guest before seating themselves? Manners, it seems, have been thrown out with last years 'must haves'. I argue this, as last night I was very pleasantly surprised when on a date with 'Mr Darcy', he voluntarily walked me to my car, before walking back to his. To be honest I was quite taken aback (not only because it's a very cute thing to do). It's rather tragic this isn't a dating normality, but when thinking about it, I can honestly say this has almost never happened before on a date.
HAS THE MODERN, URBAN-DWELLING MAN LOST HIS MANNERS? Or have expectations of peoples bahaivours just slowly slipped us into a mannerless existance?
Let me know your thoughts!
When was the last time you saw someone open or close a car door for someone else? Seat a guest before seating themselves? Manners, it seems, have been thrown out with last years 'must haves'. I argue this, as last night I was very pleasantly surprised when on a date with 'Mr Darcy', he voluntarily walked me to my car, before walking back to his. To be honest I was quite taken aback (not only because it's a very cute thing to do). It's rather tragic this isn't a dating normality, but when thinking about it, I can honestly say this has almost never happened before on a date.
HAS THE MODERN, URBAN-DWELLING MAN LOST HIS MANNERS? Or have expectations of peoples bahaivours just slowly slipped us into a mannerless existance?
Let me know your thoughts!
Monday, June 9, 2008
Love at First Sight?
So literally hours after posting my views on winter bed-warmers, I ironically found myself in the exact situation I'd discussed. Pondering the thought of inviting someone to stay the night, knowing full well it wasn't 'love' that was inspiring this decision, but that void screaming in my head . So I thought I'd experiment with the idea and spent a blissful night soaking up someones arms wrapped firmly around me (the first time in months), and it was GREAT. Ironic..yes! Fate...perhaps?
So continuing this theme of self-prophecy, I wanted to raise the concept of 'LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT'. An acquaintance recently told me of how laying eyes on a girl for the first time in his life, he knew this was the woman he was going to marry. A few years later they are happily married and with child. I'd love to know if this will one day happen to me, and I remain hopeful it will.
BUT DO WE ALL BELIEVE THIS? And does this happen to everyone or a select few, who simply seem better connected to something more powerful and all-knowing then we can even realise? SO...romantic notion or a Disney-inspired concept fed to us as children that gets us through those rough, single patches? Here's hoping for romance on a grand scale!
So continuing this theme of self-prophecy, I wanted to raise the concept of 'LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT'. An acquaintance recently told me of how laying eyes on a girl for the first time in his life, he knew this was the woman he was going to marry. A few years later they are happily married and with child. I'd love to know if this will one day happen to me, and I remain hopeful it will.
BUT DO WE ALL BELIEVE THIS? And does this happen to everyone or a select few, who simply seem better connected to something more powerful and all-knowing then we can even realise? SO...romantic notion or a Disney-inspired concept fed to us as children that gets us through those rough, single patches? Here's hoping for romance on a grand scale!
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Seasonal Couples...?
With winter fast approaching and those winter nights becoming increasingly colder, I have had to ask myself, do people really couple up for winter? It seems almost stupid to even acknowledge it as a legitimate topic, but do people in fact get less picky as the temperature drops? Personally I'd rather keep the bar consistently high, the only thing I turn up is my electric blanket (sad but true!). But I'm intrigued to see numerous friends, both gay and straight, all increasing their weekly dates. Is it a last minute attempt to secure a winter bed warmer, or is it something completely different? While there are those nights that so fittingly remind you how alone you really are, they are short lived, and with a new day comes a new hope that you might just bump into Mr/Mrs right...however winter is fast approaching, and I'm yet to even get a glance of Mr right, let alone bump into him. Should I lower the bar and let my winter nights be temporarily cosy and cuddly, or do I hold strong, and become overly attached to my new, super-fluffy pillows?
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